Before I starting my speech today, let me ask you some questions. How many of you have been isolated by a group of people at school or is being isolated now? And how many of you have been one who has isolated someone or is isolating someone now?

Speaking of being isolated, many of us may have such experience. I’m sure that almost in every class we can find one who is kept out of a ‘group’ ,no one wants to talk to him, no one wants to play with him, it just like he is abandoned by the whole world. So what happened?

When we try to find the reason that causes the isolation, many of us will blame on the one who is being isolated and say, that because he is not nice or he has problems on getting along with others .Of course, everything has reason. The isolation may happens when someone is always too arrogant, slovenly or ruthless and can’t actively handle the relationship with others. Gradually, people begin to stay away from him, and one day, he will suddenly realize that he has no friend and being disgusting by others. The isolation at school it’s one type of school bullings. The long-term effects of being isolated are huge, including sensitivity, anxiety and depression, even suicide.

So what we can do if we are now being isolated? When we feel that people don’t like us and even keep avoiding us, we should first find the problems on our own and try to have a change. People don’t like us because of some defects on us, so be aware of them and try to be a better person. Try to blend in others, but don’t ingratiate ourselves with them. If you have tried but there is no way to solve, just stay away from those who hurt and ignore you. There are lots of exciting things that are waiting for you, those who love you don’t want you to let yourself be scarred before you see them. Our life is a long long way, don’t be shame don’t be uneasy don’t say: ‘I’m not going to be ok anymore.’ Everything will be ok.

When I was in Junior high, there was a girl who is weird and not very kind to others, we isolated her and she always came alone. There was one time that after an examination, she came to me to ask a question. I said I didn’t know that question very clearly and told her to find someone else. Actually, she knew I made that question. So she looked at me, and her face suddenly dimmed. It’s really ‘dimmed’, just like turn off the lights in an empty room at nightfall. I could easily tell the lonely on her face. When I slowly grow up and now standing here to give you the speech, I realize that maybe I didn’t really hate that girl, I even didn’t have much communication with her. It’s just because I was afraid to be isolated like her. For a 13-year-old girl at that time, I have to choose, or my friend maybe won’t talk to me anymore.

So you see? Everyone is afraid to be isolated. If you are now isolating someone, please stop it. Maybe he did something that you can’t stand, maybe you are just following other people. No matter why, just stop it. Each man is an island, we are all afraid of rampant tsunami. Let a piece of land to others, everyone has way to go. After being a person who hurt someone, I also have found myself in a tight corner. When I was in despair, what I want is that someone can extend a hand to me and tell me that everything will be ok. I lived through many ups and downs, fears, stresses, I saw many kinds of malicious I experienced the betrayal, I realize how important it is to forgive others’ weakness, forgive the demanding of the world, and try to be lenient and kind. Because the most powerful thing in this world is not aggression, not violence but kindness. So before you did something that may hurt someone, try to find a more gentle way. There is too much viciousness in this world, but kindness is precious.